Save My Marriage – Make Him Feel Like a King
You’re not going to believe this, but ladies, guess what? You can save your marriage by making your husband feel like a king!
I get a ton of mail from women who are desperately trying to find a way to save a marriage and when I go through what’s gone wrong and why, 9 times out of 10 these women are treating their husbands like sh!t and not making any time for their husbands.
Of course there are exceptions to the rule, but on the whole a lot of women have lives that don’t involve their husbands, make major decisions without discussing things with their husbands and generally shout down or ignore anything their husbands need or express.
Let me tell you if you want to know how to save your marriage, this is not the way to go forward.
You have to find a way to give your husband the time and attention that he needs to remain ‘in love’ with you. You have to make him feel that what he has to say on anything is worth listening to and worth considering. You must make him feel special by keeping yourself sexy and reasonably available to him.
Now for some women, this all sounds like selling out what their grandmothers faught so hard to escape. But read this part carefully “Do not do anything that you don’t believe in!” If it sticks in your throat to place the man who you have chosen as your life partner, who you say you love and who you’re battling to stay married to, at the centre of your life, then don’t do it.
And what’s more, if it does stick in your throat ask yourself why?
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The Truth is Do You Want To Save Your Marriage
I have one question for you: do you want to save your marriage? If the answer is yes, you have a hard road ahead of you. But, before you start down that path, you have to answer this question in the affirmative.
Take a hard look at the state of your marriage. Is this the person you want to be with in five years?
If not, you don’t need to read any further. Just go down to the closest divorce attorney.
Still with me? Good. I’m going to show you how to save your marriage.
Once you have decided that your marriage is worth saving, you can start to do the work that is necessary. Don’t even think about going to the divorce lawyer any more. You’ve made the commitment to stick with your relationship.
Now that you have put divorce out of your mind, accept that there will have to be changes in the relationship. If you want the relationship to work more than your partner does, then you are the one who is going to have to do the most changing. That’s a simple fact. It is like the person who has the bigger aversion to messiness usually does the most cleaning around the house. The person who wants the relationship to work more will have to do the most changing.
You have to be prepared to talk more too. Set aside time to get to know your partner once again. If he or she has hobbies that they are willing to share with you, get involved even if you are not all that into darts or scrap-booking.
If your partner is willing to agree to it, marriage counseling may be what you need to save your marriage. A relationship counselor or therapist will be able to look at your marriage from the outside, ask probing questions, and get you to open up to each other.
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Once you have the “ideal” out of your head, you will be able to work on what is real and what is good. These are the standards you should be applying to your marriage.
Do you want to save your marriage? Good. But know the hard work lies ahead.
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