If you are the one initiating the break up, try to do it with love and compassion.  Whether you are truly calling it quits or just wanting a time out, remember that this is a person who has been important to you and you have a responsibility to take his or her feelings into account.

It’s generally best to tell the person that you want to break up in a public place.  That’s because people are less likely to embarrass themselves if others are around.  Also, don’t draw the break up out.  Just say your piece and leave.

Once you have broken up, leave the channels of communication open.  Be there for your ex when he or she needs you.

Don’t play games with your ex.  Some people suggest dating their best friend or flaunting a new date on your ex, but consider that if you ever make up, these things are going to haunt your new relationship.

If you have found that you want to get back together with your ex, consider the following:

· Tell them that you are interested
· Be interesting yourself – take up new activities and make new friends
· Try a new look – whether it is a new hair style or simply updating your grooming, your ex will notice.

Suggest that you meet your ex for lunch or some other non-romantic activity.  During this time, you can bring up the positive memories you shared.  You can also emphasize any changes you have made in your life.

If your ex gives you any indication that he or she is willing to give it a second try, don’t assume that you can start right back where you left off.  Woo your boyfriend or girlfriend.  Go out on romantic dates.  Start by holding hands, not jumping into the sack.

Also, give your relationship time to heal from the break up.  Don’t assume that your ex’s feelings weren’t hurt by the cooling off period.

Continue improving yourself.  Don’t fall into bad habits just because you’ve got your ex back.  Constantly strive to be the best boyfriend or girlfriend you can be.

That’s your guide to Relationships – Break up to Make up.

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Tips To Help You Move Towards Rebuilding Trust In Your Relationship

Follow Through!  What you say you must mean.  You’re not going to re-build trust in your relationship if you say one thing and do the opposite.  If you do the opposite to what you say, then you end up whittling away any respect your spouse has for you.  So please make sure to follow through.

Don’t keep secrets!  Keeping secrets presents a clear and obvious danger to your relationship, .  If you have something significant going on in your life that you cannot tell your spouse , then that there is a clear sign that all is not well with your relationship.  Aim to be as honest and open as you can be.  Not only that, keeping a secret requires a great deal of work, work that you should be putting into your marriage/relationship. 

Don’t play the martyr and suffer in silence!  If your spouse is not meeting your needs whether sexually, emotionally or in any other way that you require, keeping this a secret will do you and your relationship no favors.  You simply have to tell them what you need.  Sometimes you may think you’re protecting your partner and their feelings by not telling them what you need, but you’re not.  You’re just storing up future trouble and living in present misery.  It’s okay to be self-centered as long as you’re not selfish.

Figure out how to say “No!” whenever you need to.  Don’t allow yourself to lose you and lose your voice.  Remember you’re important and if you don’t show your partner that, then they’ll forget it.

Re-building the trust in your relationship has as much to do with you being strong and assured about your needs as it does your partner being open and honest with you.  Both of them are vital and in equal measures will allow real and healthy growth for both of you.

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