Cheating Spouse – You Might Just Be Paranoid!
It’s no secret that I on the whole, hold with the thought that if you think your spouse is cheating on you and you’re being reasonable, then you’re probably right!
However…
What you seriously need to make sure of is that you’re being absolutely reasonable and not being paranoid about your spouse. Believe me, after what I’ve been through with cheaters and liars, I’m never going to ignore the signs if they ever appear again, but you MUST make sure that this ‘cheating spouse’ you believe you’re living with is real and not simply in your own mind.
3 Signs You Might Be Wrong About Your Spouse!
1) If you believe that EVERY call your spouse gets is from their illicit lover, then you need to look at yourself. It just isn’t physically possible that EVERY single call that your spouse gets is from someone they’re cheating on you with, so if that’s what’s going on in your mind then you need to take a step back and take stock.
If the phone calls are coming at regular intervals and over a period of time, say 8 o’clock in the mornings a few mornings a week, or if your spouse is regularly making a call as soon as they get into the privacy of their car – then you might have something to worry about!
2) Do you think if your spouse is twenty minutes late home from work that they’re cheating on you? Well you could be being paranoid. Between leaving home, or the bar or some friend or relative, half a hour is no time! It takes a lot more time to divert and go off and have an illicit encounter and you need to accept this.
Traffic is unpredictable, we as human beings are unpredictable! Your spouse could’ve stopped for gas, some chocolate, pick up a movie or innocently bumped into a friend! You have to have the confidence to give your spouse space or you will suffocate them and possibly make a rod for your own back.
However, you if your partner is consistently very late, particularly on a regular day or once or twice a week, and they can give no explanation, then you might have something to look into and investigate. However if this isn’t the case, then don’t allow yourself to poison your relationship with your fears.
3) Now be honest with yourself, are you going out of your way to check up on your spouse and you don’t have any real signs that they’re cheating on you? Are you driving by their place of work just to “put your mind at ease” that they’re actually at work? Then again, you might very well be letting your paranoia get the better of you.
Don’t get me wrong, checking on the whereabouts of your spouse is a good way to find out if you do have a cheating spouse on your hands, but to routinely do so when you have NO basis upon which to doubt your spouse, is a very dangerous place to find yourself in.
However, remember the famous saying – “just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean they’re not out to get you!” You may be paranoid, but you just might have a real reason to be paranoid! Just don’t get things out of proportion and trust yourself to recognize when you might be going too far or not far enough!
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