Time To Get Your Spouse To Agree To Marriage Counseling

It’s a really sad fact that for many marriages on the verge of breaking up, marriage counseling is often the last roll of the dice before a looming divorce.  But it really doesn’t have to be that way.  It’s true that the sooner a couple go for counseling the greater chance they might have to rescue their relationship, but even at the 11th hour it still might not be too late to go for counseling.

So Who Goes For Marriage Counseling?

 

Of course there are no hard and fast rules, but statistics show that younger couples are far more likely to try counseling than couples who have been married for years and might not be so eager to try new and dynamic methods of rescuing their relationship.  Very often marriages of 30 or 40+ years are now ending in divorce because of the traditional values that these couples hold onto, which is really a waste of a relationship that may have been saved by a skilled counselor.

What is also a feature is that one party in the marriage will be ready to go for counseling but the other is perhaps not ready.  Getting your reluctant spouse to go for counseling with you can be a tricky situation and might require some kind of subtle pressure from you to make it happen.

Here’s How To Get Your Spouse To Agree To Counseling

1. Always try and ask your spouse to go with you in an honest and open way.  Make sure you explain how you’re feeling and how you believe the counseling might help your marriage/relationship.
2. If the initial response you get is a flat out “No!”  Don’t immediately start a battle of wills to make it happen.  Instead acknowledge to your spouse that you understand it’s a big scary step.
3. Try and suggest that you’re the one who needs help with some emotional problems and then finish by saying, ‘you’d really appreciate it if your spouse came with you in a supportive role’.
4. Further explain that your goal is to become the best partner/spouse you can and you sincerely believe that going to counseling will help you with that.
5. Also, you should understand and accept that your spouse maybe afraid of what going to marriage counseling means: that the marriage is virtually over, it’s now that you assure your spouse that it doesn’t mean that at all.  Explain that you value your relationship and that’s why you’re trying to find solutions to some problems to keep everything happy and healthy for both of you.

Finally, if all fails and your spouse still won’t go with you, then go on your own!  Going to relationship/marriage counseling on your own doesn’t make it worthless.  You can still go ahead and work on things that are important to you as an individual and that’s all good for your relationship/marriage.

Plus once they see you giving the relationship counseling a try, your reluctant spouse might just agree to give it a try!

 

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