Emotional Cheating – Is It Really Cheating?
I get asked this a lot – “Is emotional cheating, really cheating?” And my answer to that is always, “YES!”
But before we get into it, just what is “emotional cheating?”
Well basically it’s an inappropriate attachment to someone other than your spouse, but without the sex.
So, if someone in a committed relationship/marriage needs to find some kind of intimate emotional support from someone else, then there’s clearly a problem within the relationship that needs facing.
If there was nothing to the emotional attachment, then there would be nothing to hide from a spouse and no all around secrecy with the emotional affair.
If you’re confiding in a work colleague, sharing lunch, emailing someone, perhaps meeting up after work for talks and you can’t tell your spouse, then you have a problem and you’re having an emotional affair.
There really should be no situation and no one in your life that you couldn’t tell your spouse about IF they asked.
If you have parts of your day that you cannot share with your spouse, then you need to ask yourself what’s going on and what you should do about it.
Ask yourself this, how would your spouse feel if they discovered that you had a level of intimacy with this other person? Be honest with yourself. There’s a reason you haven’t told your spouse and that’s because you know it’s wrong.
Think long and hard about where you want to go with your relationship with your spouse and if the relationship is worth saving. Because fact is fact, exclude your spouse and there’s a problem! You’re cheating.
If your marriage/relationship is worth saving then I’d recommend that you quickly get to grips with this situation and look at getting hold of Save My Marriage/Relationship Today.
If your relationship isn’t worth saving then I would ask you to please, sit your spouse down and talk openly and honestly to them. It will save the mess and pain that is surely coming your way.
Good luck!
